How to choose your own wedding traditions

I know I’ve said it before but, I feel passionately about making sure you have a wedding day that truly reflects you as a couple. Wedding traditions are great but they are also a reflection of the trends at the time. So please don’t feel you HAVE to have them to make your wedding feel like a wedding. If you want to know more about where wedding traditions come from check out my post on the top 10 traditions.

So how do you decide on which ones to keep and which ones to bin?

how to choose wedding traditions

Firstly ask yourself does it align with your values?


For example If you want to make your wedding more sustainable and that’s important to you why would you opt to have printed wedding invitations? Because it’s the traditional thing to do? There are so many alternatives you can get a great one designed and send it via email or set up a wedding website with all the necessary details.

If you’re not sure what your values are, I would recommend sitting down and writing these down. Starting with a list of what’s important to you both and go from there.

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Secondly don’t feel the pressure to please others


Now I appreciate this is easy said than done. There are a lot of family politics when it comes to weddings and you want to keep the peace or not offend relatives. But just a gentle reminder this is YOUR wedding day and you want to feel happy, and not feel like it’s someone else’s day. It’s a celebration of your love story, and it should be your choice how you choose to celebrate. Plus can I let you in on a secret the best weddings are those where you guests walk in and can tell it’s your wedding, as it has your personality all over it! 


And Lastly throw your personality around like confetti


Taking of personality make sure you add it in there! Shake things up, and your own twist to your wedding day, and don’t forget to have fun with it. What do you both like doing together is it going to music festivals, travelling, or cooking amazing dishes. By all means take inspiration from other weddings you’ve been to, or Pinterest. But don’t copy someone else’s day as this will make your day feel less authentic and just like every other wedding. You want guests to leave saying that was their favourite wedding or they had such an amazing day!


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I’ve seen so many couples choose traditions or things to have at their wedding because they saw at someone else’s wedding. But NEWS FLASH this is not their wedding it’s yours. And I want you to have the best version of your wedding possible, that reflect you as a couple.

⚡️Say yes to making your own rules

⚡️Say yes to creating a vibe for your day

⚡️Say yes to choosing what’s right for you

I hope that helps and if you ever want to chat all things weddings I am here for it. I even have a brand new service which is perfect if you’re not sure if full planning service is for you, but you just wants some advice. It’s called my Power Planning Hour, click here for more details.

Amelia x

So what are you waiting for just get in touch, I can’t wait to hear from you.

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