Badass Advice 101: What to do when you get engaged

Yayyy you’re engaged! But you’re starting to feel a bit overwhelmed, as soon as you announce your engagement everyone starts asking, when are you getting married? What’s the date? Who are you inviting? It’s a bit crazy and you feel pressured you should have your whole wedding sorted! Don’t fear you’re NOT alone it happens to all of us. Some of you have never planned a wedding before so it’s only natural to feel this way.

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Over the next few months I’m going to be sharing some little nuggets of advice and tips called Badass advice 101, which I hope will help all my lovely couples trying to plan an alternative wedding, which is not always easy. As some of you may know I’ve worked in the industry for 5 years, and worked in house at two venues, and I kept seeing the same style of weddings. When I spoke to my couples about why they were choosing a registrar or a church ceremony it would often be because they didn’t know there was another option.

So that’s why I’m on a mission to show you there is another way, having also planned my wedding in a different country it can be overwhelming and daunting and can leave you wondering where to begin! But some great advice is coming your way to help you have your wedding day your way!

Firstly sit down with your partner and decide on the following


⚡ What’s important about your day? This should always be number one before you start any planning or decision making. For every couple it’s different are you both foodies and amazing food is number one on the list. Or are you both really into music so an epic band and music is a huge part of your day.

⚡ Do you want a small or big celebration? This will help with the guest list later.

⚡ Would you rather elope and have a party at a later stage.

⚡ This will then lead you to your non negotiable’s and then you can work out a budget and deduct what money you have left to spend for the other parts of your wedding day.

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Photo credit – Hannah Holinger 

Your wedding day will then become a concept of how you want your wedding day to be, and you can then start researching on venues, photographers etc. to see what you like and what you don’t like.

Next you need to think about your venue


A venue starts to set the tone of your wedding day and will ultimately give you a date so you can book all the rest of your lovely suppliers.

Questions to ask yourself

⚡ Do you want a Barn or industrial space?

⚡ Do you want a historic building or a tipi?

This will then give you space to plan and set the vibe for your wedding. For example if you’ve chosen an Industrial space, rustic tables compliment the space and will help you choose the colour scheme to compliment it, which will lead into you flowers and bridal squad outfits.

It will also mean you have a maximum number of guests you can invite so you have the not so easy task of the guest list. Do you invite partners or children?

Followed by research and the joy of Pinterest, make sure you really look at all the amazing suppliers out there. There are some cool wedding dresses, offering different colours and styles and cool videographers offering a fun, creative style.

Finally enjoy the engagement bubble! It doesn’t last forever and not everything has to be decided straight away. Yes venues get booked up quite quickly but it does take some time to think about what’s important for your day.

And if you want someone to truly get your vibe or have some great ideas you want to incorporate then just get in touch, I can’t wait to hear from you!


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